It is important for men to remember, that as
women grow older it becomes harder for them to maintain the same quality of housekeeping
as when they were younger. When you notice this, try not to yell at them. Some are
oversensitive and there ain't nothing worse then an oversensitive woman.
My name is, Paul... Let me relate how I handled the situation with my wife, Sue. When I
was laid off from my consulting job and took "early retirement" in April, it
became necessary for Sue to get a full-time job, both for extra income and for the health
benefits that we needed.
Shortly after she started working I noticed she was beginning to show her age. I usually
get home from the Golf Course about the same time she gets home from work. Although she
knows how hungry I am, she almost always says she has to rest for half an hour or so
before she starts dinner. I don't yell at her. Instead, I tell her to take her time and
just wake me when she gets dinner on the table. I generally have lunch in the Men's Grill
at the club so eating out is not reasonable. I'm ready for some home cooked grub when I
hit that door...
She used to do the dishes as soon as we finished eating. But now, it's not unusual for
them to sit on the table for several hours after dinner. I do what I can by diplomatically
reminding her several times each evening that they won't clean themselves. I know she
appreciates this, as it does seem to motivate her to get them done before she goes to bed.
I really think my old business as a consultant helps a lot. I consider telling people what
they ought to do one of my strong points...
And speaking of bed, her age really shows up there. I go out and golf all day, come in
dead tired and after a two hour nap and a good meal, I'm ready, if you know what I mean.
Age has gotten her so bad that she actually dozes off during lovemaking. But that's okay.
Her satisfaction in that area is important to a sensitive guy like me and if she enjoys
sleeping during our little trysts, what the hey...
Now that she has gotten older, she does seem to get tired so much more quickly. Our washer
and dryer are in the basement. Sometimes she says she just can't make another trip down
those steps. I don't make a big issue of this; as she finishes up the laundry the next
evening, I'm willing to overlook it. Not only that, but unless I need something ironed to
wear to the Monday lodge meeting, or to Wednesday's or Saturday's poker club, or to
Tuesday's or Thursday's bowling, or something like that, I will tell her to wait until the
next evening to do the ironing. This gives her a little more time to do some of those odds
and ends like shampooing the dog, vacuuming or dusting...
Also, if I had a really good day on the course and it was wet and muddy my clubs are a
mess, so I let her clean them, you know.....get the grit off the grips and a little light
Brillo on the club faces at a casual pace. My golf bag is heavy so I lift it out of the
trunk for her. Women are delicate, have weak wrists and can't lift heavy stuff as good as
men. But I did tell her I don't like to be wakened during my after golf nap, so rather
then bother me, she can put them back in the trunk when she's finished.
Another symptom of aging is complaining, I think. For example, she will say that it is
difficult for her to find time to pay the monthly bills during her lunch hour. But boys,
we take em for better or worse, so I just smile and offer encouragement. I tell her to
stretch it out over two or even three days. That way she won't have to rush so much.
I also remind her that missing lunch completely now and then wouldn't hurt her any (if you
know what I mean). I like to think tact is one of my strong points.
When doing simple jobs, she seems to think she needs more rest periods. She had to take a
break when she was only half finished mowing the yard. I try not to make a scene. I'm a
fair man. I tell her to fix herself a nice, big, cold glass of freshly squeezed lemonade
and just sit for a while. And, as long as she is making one for herself, she may as well
make one for me too, then take her break by my hammock. That way she can talk with me
until I fall asleep.
I know that I probably look like a saint in the way I support Sue. I'm not saying that
showing this much consideration is easy. Many men will find it difficult. Some will find
it impossible! Nobody knows better than I do, how frustrating women get as they get older.
However, guys, even if you just use a little more tact and less criticism of your aging
wife because of this article, I will consider that writing it was well worthwhile. After
all, we are put on this earth to help each other...
Paul
EDITOR'S NOTE: Paul died suddenly Thursday, June 3. He was found with a Calloway extra
long 50 inch Big Bertha Driver rammed up his rectum with only 2 inches of grip showing.
His wife Sue was arrested, but the Grand Jury accepted her defense that he accidentally
sat on it. She was released on Friday, June 4.
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